Hi,
As it is a custom product field, the content is stored in the product PHP object.
The easiest way will be to use the check on the custom field column name.
So in the view, "product / show_tabular", in the video tab you can add code like:
<?php
echo $this->element->product_video; // if you named the video custom field "product_video"
?>
And to display that video tab or not, just add a php if condition around the "<li>" html like:
<?php
if(!empty($this->element->product_video)){
?>
<li>...</li>
<?php
}
?>